Sunday 19 January 2014

Being Unrealistic???


Has life rendered you totally befuddled and confused?  You think you should be doing one thing whereas your family and friends think otherwise. You read in books that you ought to listen to your heart and when you try doing that your ears are filled with the shrieks of people pouring out their bad experiences and advising you against it. You want to soar high, but your wings are strongly tethered to the ground and you doubt if breaking free is ever a wise decision, as you have seen myriad people who dared to break their bonds returning back despondent with broken wings, only to sing stories of their failures and dejections. Albeit you know that it is impossible to remain totally contented or feel satisfied with your life if you plan to stay where you currently are. Is this the usual heart-brain conflict?


 Well in cases regarding relationships, your heart overrules your brain and it usually comes back with bruises and cuts.  Still you feel it`s worth a try. Why can`t one apply the same rule when it comes to this innate desire or this so called “purpose of life”?  Is it because this time it`s riskier than your loved one crushing your heart and chucking you out of their lives? Am I strong enough, to challenge failure and look at it in the eye and shout at my loudest of voices “BRING IT ON”...???

Why is it so damn tougher to apologise to your sibling and resolve a tiff than to reach a consensus with your colleagues after an altercation? Why is it so hard to show even a fraction of guts that you use to convince your boss, to talk to your dad about your dreams? Why is it that one is left without words when one wants to argue about one`s beliefs and values while the opponent lays down facts and results in front of you?.. and people say from time to time that its quarter life crisis that`s pulling you down.


Well, I guess I am wiser than accepting that this crisis is just a phase of life and is something that should pass. What would you want to name the crisis that arrives when you are in your 30s, what about the 40s, the 50s and thereafter? Hard and fast rule of life: Life ain`t without its faults. Life is not easy, face it. Accepting the fact that crisis is not something that pops up in front you just to surprise you , but something that comes along as a part of life, would help you deal with it in a better way and may be its high time I accepted that.

There are certain things in life that can only be felt and not expressed through words. People call it the gut feeling which if doesn`t work out, nothing else would. There is no logical explanation as to why you love a certain person or want to take up a profession. It becomes difficult when people start asking you for reasons. It is said that your feelings and thoughts are more important than words and in a world which transcends words, you just need your thoughts to communicate. If you think of thoughts that makes you feel good and happy, then everything else is set right automatically. So, if thoughts and feelings are that powerful, is it not more important to trust your heart`s desires than your brain`s logic ? If that`s the case and if one already knows one`s life`s purpose (which is something that most people are still trying to figure out), shouldn`t he/she feel luckier and start chasing those dreams at any cost?



You might not be strong today, but life would surely bring the necessary experiences to you that would make you strong enough to face any hurdle. Most of us are impatient and can`t wait for the right time for the right things to happen. So it`s okay to not know the answers to all your questions.  You have only a few pieces of the jigsaw puzzle right now and crying over the fact that you don`t have the complete picture is mere foolishness. If we tie our lives to real goals and try out best to work towards it, God lets the different pieces of the jigsaw puzzle fall into the right places and one fine morning it will be revealed to you. You are more likely to attract the right person to your life when you focus on what you are meant to do. An added advantage of chasing your dreams enh?? Now that`s the rule of life.

Still thinking of the friends who came back with bruised wings to narrate sad stories?? Think of the greater number of friends whose wings are intact and are soaring higher and higher just because they believed in their dreams and trusted their instincts no matter what.